Nevertheless, their principal bond with the Community is through prayer. Some, who want to live in the world with Saint John as their spiritual father, are associated with the brothers as secular oblates. They are attached to the priory of their choice where they can come for retreats near the Brothers and Sisters.
The Oblates of Saint John want to live fully their baptismal consecration intimately close to Mary and in the spirit of Saint John. This life of consecration demands of them a commitment to prayer and to fraternal charity regarding the brothers and sisters. They have an apostolic influence within the context of their respective familial, parochial, social, or political responsibilities which allows the family of Saint John to act more profoundly in the world.